Our Story

One morning she woke from what seemed like a nightmare and googled “How does an orgasm feel?” and google said “It's similar to your body falling off a cliff into a pile of tingling ecstasy. It's a sense of sensual release that you find yourself having no control over and letting yourself go because it's just too damn good. An earth-shattering female orgasm is one of a kind” confused, she shot her next question “Is manipulation a form of abuse?”

While google is a safe space to explore our wildest curiosities, Is google really the place for these questions? Why was she not aware of something so natural? Why do we shy away so much from these conversations?

In spite of growing up in an urban setup there was a lack of formal education on sexual reproductive health and rights. There was always a sense of ambiguity and some kind of stigma around it. To even talk to your own family and friends in cases. Sex-ed classes were moments of shame, laughter and giggles. Most of us even found out about sex only from friends or from internet. Some of the questions during different stages of growing up were:  what is sex, what are contraceptives, is virginity real, is sex painful, what is consent. Everyone had these questions. Everyone was clueless.  The commonality of the situation was that everyone was collectively unaware which led to normalized sexual illiteracy until personal boundaries were violated and there were instances of discomfort with one’s own body. 

Despite sex and relationships being one of the key aspects of life, there is unbelievable amount of stigma and taboo around it. While we are taught from a very young age about science behind everything around us, we are never taught about our own bodies, boundaries and healthy relationships.

Comprehensive sex education can act as a very effective tool to provide answers to all the whys whats and hows of so many young adults.  There is a stigma built around CSE- one of it being  that it only tells us how to have sex, what we fail to see is that  it covers a lot more than just sex.

• Gender identity and sensitivity

• Combating body image issues

• Consent and awareness about sexual abuse 

• Creating an inclusive space for the LGBTQIA+ community. 

• Recognizing boundaries

• Accepting changes positively

• Making smart sexual decisions

• Use of contraception

• Sexually transmitted diseases

We would’ve taken more informed decisions and been a lot more confident if we had this kind of intervention at college level. While it is important to start Sex Ed at a very young age; we think it is an ongoing process and it is important to widen the aspects of Sex Ed with Age.  Speaking to students today, we still see so much ambiguity and stigma around the topic. Which is why we are petitioning to have CSE as a part of the undergraduate program for students in OU and Affiliated colleges. This is only a beginning to the change we are to see.